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Are you in Good Company?

Tyrese Gibson wrote this quote on Twitter, “I’d rather go where I’m celebrated not where I’m tolerated.”

This is a very powerful statement. You can have an enormous amount of friends, family, coworkers and associates but not all of them will like you nor will they have your back. Some will either celebrate your presence in the form of a warm welcoming or tolerate your presence with a short lip, ignore you or even worse smile in your face and talk behind your back.

It’s really sad that no matter what you do, you just can’t please everyone. The positive side to that is that you can choose to be around winners. Winners have no problem with you because deep inside there is no ulterior motive, no judgment or inferiority. Winners are usually always happy with themselves and when people are happy with themselves they generate happiness by giving it to others.

When you realize the ones that you need to cut out in your life, you have every right to choose not to deal with them anymore. If you love yourself, you’ll do what’s right for you. You should always surround yourself with positive people as much as you can.

Friends are hard to come by especially when you get older so make the best of who you see and meet, be wise in your choices and try not to judge. “Being yourself is beautiful, your personality is beautiful so let it shine.” ~ Ailee


November 11, 2010 Posted by | Inspiration | Leave a comment

The Focus is On You!!

In doing the MediaFast, the focus is on you, and being that the focus is on you, making the best of that time would be the best thing you could do to make the best of the MediaFast in general.

Off with the TV, off with the radio and off with the internet…hmmm, well the internet lasted for maybe a couple of hours into the first day but because I work from home and use the internet for work, it was basically a necessity that I be on it. However, it all boils down to what you actually do on the internet and the unnecessary time that you can waste being on the internet that the MediaFast was good for. So with that being said, (patting myself on the back), I managed to stay away from my regular social networking sites, such as, Facebook and Twitter for a total of 5 whole days!! That was probably the best thing that I could ever do. These social networks can reel you in for hours upon hours of the day and before you know it, you’re stuck in front of the computer and a good 2 hours has now passed you by because you’re constantly keeping up with the comments and statuses and tweets and retweets that are continually floating down the computer screen. Being away from it for 5 days helped me to recognize that a comment or tweet just isn’t that important to wait around for and indulge in. In order to get peace of mind, it can wait. Now I am not knocking the use of Facebook or Twitter one bit, but you should definitely learn to discipline yourself from it because it can be a waste of some good quality time for yourself.

Now TV was rather difficult. First off, I do not live alone and my boyfriend is definitely an avid TV watcher and being that it is football and now basketball season and the fact that he loves all the CSI and Law and Order episodes, it makes it very difficult. I ended up sneaking a peak at the Lakers game on Tuesday night and after that, it was all over, I ended up watching the whole game and yessss, the Lakers won!! I did manage during the day to not watch TV, stuck to my regular work and read a good book during quiet times but after another day of complete quietness, I began to watch more and more TV. Now with the help of MediaFast, I did manage to only limit myself to watching things like the History Channel, HGTV and maybe some biographies so I still did keep up my bargain with keeping away from the news, media and gossip or reality TV. Again, it is all how you discipline yourself in what you watch and how you handle your spare time.

Radio is a piece of cake. I love music but I really haven’t taken much time into listening to the radio for the past couple of months probably even years because everything is on video or on the internet.

So there you have it, my experience with MediaFasting. It was pretty much shortened up to 5 days. As I read some of the tweets about it, I did happen to see several people checking in, adding their experiences, most of them good and then some of them giving up after the first day. All in all, it was a good experience and it really helped me focus on more of getting to know me, it helped me catch up on a much needed book and also helped me to make plans and believe me there are some plans in progress!! I’m so excited about them too!!

Just remember, you’re never too busy to take care of yourself. You come first before anyone else, remember that!!  Take Care all :0)

November 1, 2010 Posted by | Motivation | | Leave a comment

MediaFast One Week starts Monday 12am

The idea came up from a well-known celebrity on Twitter and paraded through timelines Saturday night. Through the help of another well-known celebrity, many people were on a twittering frenzy of their needs for closure and needs for more positivity and an end to a negative cycle that has been going on in their lives.

“The Entertainment Fast is to get you to exercise your mind, harness your creativity, Learn a trade, Start a hobby. Read.”  ~ undisclosed

“This Media Fast is gonna be epic. We can make the difference we so often wish for MindPower.”  ~ undisclosed

Everyone goes through something in their life, there are many testimonies one goes through in order to grow. These testimonies are there for a reason. They are there to teach you and they are there for you to teach others with your experience.

Lots of lives were touched that night as he retweeted their tweets and asked if there was anyone out there that could offer their help to follow these people. Many friends were made that night, thanks to this celebrity and his suggestion to try the media fast became the main agenda for most in order to bring the focus back to themselves and not the negativity that seems to surround them.

The media which includes television, internet and radio are a huge influence on our society today.

“We are a generation that are sickly CONSUMED in EVERYBODY ELSE damn business..” ~ undisclosed

“Insecure people attack “Secure” people with a mission to create INSECURITIES..” ~ undisclosed

“Hurt people wanna do just that.. HURT people..” ~ undisclosed

“Ok.. From Monday to next MONDAY. No Media, News, Blogs, Websites, and here’s the REAL challenge stay away from ALL NEGATIVE PEOPLE! You in??” ~ undisclosed

This means no TV, Radio, and Internet (outside of your scope of business or school) and of course away from all negative people and negativity in general!!

So it all starts with YOU. The more you suppress yourself, the more you keep busy (away from your issues), the more you stay influenced by others that do not have your best interest at heart then the longer it will be to get your CLOSURE.  And there is so much closure out there needing to be made.

Good luck to anyone who has decided to take on this great challenge. It will be tough but it will also help you GROW. You’ll gain a new hobby, learn from reading a great book and start to love yourself more.

I’m doing it too so wish me lots of luck and I will be back in one week!!  Take care everyone!!!

~ Love yourself first, that is the goal, don’t worry, it’s completely unselfish of you ~

October 25, 2010 Posted by | Motivation | 1 Comment

5 Simple Steps to get through Discouragement


1.                  DON’T GET DISCOURAGED!! It happens. You will be doing just fine one day and then next thing you know, you get caught up in a whole lotta nothin. Distractions, Discouragement and Disappointment seem to just keep piling up more and more around you. It’s almost like a snowball effect. It starts out small and rolls and rolls into this gigantic snow boulder that in reality ends up being a huge headache. Don’t let it get to you!! Sometimes these distractions can be there to help you without you even knowing it. The end result is that no one can ever take what is YOU away from YOU but YOU. You have the power and ability to turn away from the distractions, the discouraging words, the disappointments and start a new.

2.                  CLEANSE YOURSELF!! Cleanse your mind, body & soul. I mean physically go and shower, shampoo and shine!!  You will be amazed to realize how the water affects your thinking when you’re relaxing and rejuvenating your mind and body. As your mind is relaxed, meditate and close your eyes and think about what makes you happy. Think about the plans that you’ve made and begin to visualize how each thought connects to what makes you happy. Before you know it your mind will be zooming with more and more ideas and your creative thoughts will begin to flow just as the water is flowing. It truly works.

3.                  REMOVE YOURSELF FROM DISTRACTIONS!! That means step away from the computer, away from the television, away from the stereo, away from chaos and get some alone time, a.k.a. “me time.” Get to know your inner being, your inner voice, what your heart and mind is telling you, what you’ve brainstormed in the shower. You need to give your full attention to your PASSION!! Having a passion and knowing what you want to do about it is half the battle and well worth the time you put into it. Bring all those ideas into the forefront and make them happen!!

4.                  PEN TO PAPER!! I am old fashioned and I definitely get much more out of writing on a pad of paper than typing on the computer. Again, eliminate all distractions, focus on your inner self and remember why you’re doing this in the first place!! Remember what brings you joy and begin to start brainstorming on paper. Write out your passion and then all the connecting words or phrases or ideas to it that you can. You’ll be surprised what you come up with. Once you see it on paper, it will motivate you even more.

5.                  YOUR TO DO LIST!! Check off the items you’ve completed and feel good about that!! You’ve made progress!! Once you start looking at all the things you’ve accomplished so far, you can start adding new “To Do” items from your brainstorming. Stay focused on what is most important to you and how passionate you feel about your purpose for doing it and for making that decision of actually doing something about it!! Before you know it, you will be full of great ideas. Look at discouragements or distractions that come your way as a blessing in disguise. It’s just a way to tell you to get back to your SELF!!Self-Motivation is what it’s all about so always “keep it movin.”

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” ~ Albert Einstein

October 21, 2010 Posted by | Motivation | 1 Comment

Always see the POSITIVE in everything

Unfortunately, negativity is something that happens no matter what. More than likely, words, phrases, sentences, quotes, whatever the case can be taken into a different context by the viewer/reader than the messenger had intended.

When you look into any saying, any quote or word spoken indirectly…always know for yourself, if it wasn’t directly stated to you then it is definitely something that wasn’t meant for you and that you shouldn’t take it personal.

“An authentic attitude of compassion doesn’t change even faced with another person’s negative behavior.” ~ Dalai Lama

October 20, 2010 Posted by | Compassion | Leave a comment

Love Unconditionally

Can you do that?? Love Unconditionally!!

UNCONDITIONAL – no expectations, no limits, no conditions

If you love someone unconditionally you will want whatever is best for them and you will always give them the freedom to seek out the things that really give them happiness. You will let them learn things for themselves and explore situations and experiences that they feel will make them happy, even if you think that you know what is best for them. Although they may make bad choices and do things that are wrong you will always be there for them and never judge them if you truly love them unconditionally. ~ Gregg Hall

October 19, 2010 Posted by | Love, Unconditional | 1 Comment

Be Your Authentic You

What does that mean?? It means BE YOU, BE THE REAL YOU!!

AUTHENTIC means true to one’s own personality, spirit or character

Ever since I read the following quote: “The older I get the more I don’t care if I fit in with everyone else!” ~ Facebook Like

I’ve been able to do less worrying about what other people think and more concentrating on who I am and how unique and wonderful I am more and more becoming to be. People will always be critical but it’s how you handle that criticism and thought process that will save you.

October 18, 2010 Posted by | Motivation | 1 Comment

“What unites all beings is their desire for Happiness.”……Dalai Lama

This is sooooo true!! Ask yourself when was the last time you were the happiest? I believe you would say it was when I was surrounded by many people that shared an interest in my joy.

It’s very hard to be happy all by yourself because the most happiness comes when you are able to share that happiness with others. Think about all the social networks such as Facebook and Twitter that bring so many people together everyday and nearly every hour because there is something that we all get from it. It can be a shared quote, a shared idea, a shared piece of information. All in all, it is something that is shared in joy.

Of course there are other instances where there may be no appreciation for a shareness of joy, where there seems to be more of an interest in a criticism, a harsh remark.

“When we ignore the question of the impact our actions have on others’ well-being, inevitably we end up hurting them.” ~ Dalai Lama

Because we live in such a “hurried” society where thoughts, actions and words are at times used in “haste,” we don’t even realize we may be hurting others with our thoughts and actions, until someone says and I’m sure you’ve heard this many times during the past couple of years…..”I’m Offended!!”

“Our prime purpose in life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” ~ Dalai Lama

Ever since I came across this quote it truly inspired me as to how much we are all lacking in giving to others. This day and age is now considered a “Me” generation so in reading Dalai Lama’s moving quotes he always focused on one most important thing and that thing is…”COMPASSION.”

October 18, 2010 Posted by | Compassion, Happiness, Inspiration, Love, Quotes | 1 Comment

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